Divorce can be overwhelming and traumatic. Here are tips to help you recover.
The only trauma worse than divorce, on some life events scales, is the death of a child. And if you talk with anyone who has been divorced, they will tell you that it feels like a death. It is the death of the hopes and dreams that you had as you stood at the altar. It is the death of your identity as a spouse, as a wife or husband. And the divorce process itself can be very traumatic, especially if you go to court. It is a big life crisis.
There are many triggers of divorce trauma.
- You made the decision to divorce. Nevertheless, it is traumatic, contrary to what many believe.
- You are suddenly blindsided by your spouse who wants to divorce, and you are in shock.
- You have discovered infidelity or other secrets or betrayals.
- You have been physically, sexually, or emotionally abused.
- Family, friends or your children choose sides, distance themselves, or abandon you.
- There are all the losses you never expected.
Trauma takes over our body, mind, and spirit
Ways to recover from divorce trauma:
Trauma puts a person at higher risk for physical health problems, including obesity, chronic pain, heart disease, diabetes, and premature death. Stress-related disorders, such as PTSD, are also associated with autoimmune disorders. But you can heal from trauma and there are so many resources to help you through this trauma and professional help is available to support you through this.
- Be Kind to Yourself
- Try not to View Your Marriage as a Failure
- Take Time to Say Goodbye
- Keep a Positive Environment
- Find a Trusted Friend
- Stick to Your Routine. …
- Allow Yourself a Break From Dating
- Utilise the Resources Around You
You are not alone and there is professional help available to speak through this period and divorce.