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Ana & Me

Posted on: 22 Apr 2022

Ana & Me A short story about anorexia


Posted on: 15 Apr 2022

Having an abortion could lead you to experience different emotions, including grief and depression. This is natural, and healing is possible. Mourning and the signs of grief after an abortion Feeling and expressing grief is a natural response to any perceived loss. For some people, the hormonal changes that occur after an abortion can cause… Continue reading Abortion

Supporting Someone who is Grieving

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

Losing a loved one doesn’t just disrupt a person’s life—it changes it forever. When someone you care about experiences the death of a loved one, it may be hard to know what to say or how to offer comfort and support. This is especially true if you have not yet gone through the loss of… Continue reading Supporting Someone who is Grieving

How to support a partner with Mental Health

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

While mental health can sometimes cause issues in a relationship, it can also strengthen a couple’s bond. Here’s how you can help a depressed spouse — and yourself — so you can get through the tough times, together. Signs your partner is dealing with depression Looking for early signs of depression in your partner can feel like… Continue reading How to support a partner with Mental Health

How to Trust

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

Knowing how to trust is rarely taught in life, and after being hurt once or multiple times we can lose trust in people or find it very difficult to trust. Here are some signs of trustworthy person. 10 telltale signs of a trustworthy person 1) They are consistent. … 2) They’re always willing to compromise.… Continue reading How to Trust

Types of Therapy

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

What different therapies are there? Talking therapies can differ in: their focus (for example, learning about more yourself by talking about your past, or working on overcoming a specific problem you have now) the techniques the therapist might use during sessions the academic theory behind them. Common types of therapy Therapists use all sorts of… Continue reading Types of Therapy

How to deal with a Break Up

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

How to survive a breakup and learn to live, love, and trust again Breaking up is never easy, even if you’re the one initiating the end of the relationship. First, there are a range of emotions to contend with, some of which may last longer than others. There are also short-term and long-term steps you… Continue reading How to deal with a Break Up

Angry at my Family

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

Anger is an emotion we need to listen to if we are to better care for ourselves and our loved ones.  Anger is usually indicative of getting close to reaching, or having reached one’s capacity, so action is needed to regain balance.  Too many people grew up with the message that anger is bad, hence… Continue reading Angry at my Family

Bullying in the workplace

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

Recognising bullying in the workplace Bullying can occur in a number of different ways.Some are obvious and easy to identify. Others aresubtle and difficult to explain. Examples of bullyingbehaviour include: — ignoring views and opinions— withholding information which can affect aworker’s performance— setting unreasonable or impossible deadlines— setting unmanageable workloads— humiliating staff in front of… Continue reading Bullying in the workplace

Birth Trauma

Posted on: 02 Apr 2022

The following information has been sourced from the Birth Trauma Association. The Birth Trauma Association (BTA) Welcome to the Birth Trauma Association (BTA). We’re a charity that supports women who suffer birth trauma – a shorthand term for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after birth. We have a team of peer supporters: women who have all… Continue reading Birth Trauma

Heal your Inner Child Workbook

Posted on: 01 Apr 2022

Healing your inner child acknowledging your inner child is the first step to healing and that it is “a process of self-discovery.” Mindfully embrace the inner child with self-compassion. Mindfulness is simply being present and in tune with yourself. Sit with the inner child.


Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

Abuse, trauma and mental health (18+) Abuse, whether physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual, can have long-term effects on your mental health. Trauma can affect how you feel about yourself and how you relate to others. Women who have gone through abuse or other trauma have a higher risk of developing a mental health condition, such as… Continue reading Abuse

Losing a Child

Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

The agony of losing a child of any age is unparalleled. There is no age or point in time that makes it any easier. No parent expects to face the death of their child and no grandparent expects to lose their grandchild. The death of a child goes against the natural order we expect life… Continue reading Losing a Child

Supporting someone with anxiety

Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

How can you help? It can be really difficult when someone you care about is experiencing anxiety or panic attacks, but there are things you can do to help. Here are some tips: Don’t pressure them Try not to put pressure on your friend or family member to do more than they feel comfortable with.… Continue reading Supporting someone with anxiety

Helping People with Depression

Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

How can friends and family help? The support of friends and family can play a very important role in someone recovering from depression. Here are some suggestions for how you can help. Support them to get help. You can’t force anyone to get help if they don’t want it, so it’s important to reassure your loved… Continue reading Helping People with Depression

Fear of Germs

Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

Fear of Germs and Covid-19 Mysophobia is an extreme fear of germs. Also known as ‘Germaphobia’. You may go out of your way to avoid situations that expose you to germs. The phobia and steps you take to avoid it worsen over time. You may find yourself stuck in a cycle of repetitive behaviours that… Continue reading Fear of Germs

Grief and Loss Therapy Worksheets

Posted on: 31 Mar 2022

For those grieving a loss, there can be a struggle to connect with or express feelings. When that occurs, simple things like worksheets, which offer a set of prompts to reply to and tasks to perform, can help with recording emotions, assessing the level and phase of grief that one is experiencing, and moving the… Continue reading Grief and Loss Therapy Worksheets

Dealing with Loss

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Whatever type of loss you’ve suffered, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. But by understanding the stages and types of grief, you can find healthier ways to cope. What is grief? Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away.… Continue reading Dealing with Loss

Recovery and Coping with Shame of Addiction

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

How to cope with the shame from addiction Why Shame & Guilt are Dangerous in Addiction Recovery Dwelling in guilt will almost inevitably lead to feeling shameful. Shame cuts much deeper than guilt does, which is what makes it so dangerous. When you’re caught up in feelings of guilt and shame, you may begin to… Continue reading Recovery and Coping with Shame of Addiction

Why I was Addicted

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Why I was Addicted “I was in active addiction since I was 13. I started doing heroin and continued using until I was 33.” Gina is an outgoing person, hence, her soul that shines through her eyes. Without hearing her story, you would never understand the trials and tribulations she endured to make it to… Continue reading Why I was Addicted

Drugs, Alcohol and Me

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Drugs, Alcohol and Me “Believe me, I tried to blame everyone and everything I knew for my drinking; the death of my child, the ex-husbands, etc. Everyone was responsible for my drinking except me.” Here is Janes Story of her use of alcohol and drugs and how she recovered… “Hello, my name is Jean and… Continue reading Drugs, Alcohol and Me

Activities to distract from Self Injury

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Activities to Distract from Self Injury The main way people help themselves when they want to self-harm is through distraction. Different distractions work for different people, and the same distraction won’t necessarily work for you every time. For example, distracting yourself from anger feels very different to distracting yourself from fear, so it’s important that… Continue reading Activities to distract from Self Injury

Self Harm

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Self Harm Explains self-harm, including possible causes and how you can access treatment and support. Includes tips for helping yourself, and guidance for friends and family. What is self-harm? Self-harm is when you hurt yourself as a way of dealing with very difficult feelings, painful memories or overwhelming situations and experiences. Some people have described… Continue reading Self Harm


Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

PTSD How PTSD makes you feel: You may be reliving aspects of what happened This can include: vivid flashbacks (feeling like the trauma is happening right now) intrusive thoughts or images nightmares intense distress at real or symbolic reminders of the trauma physical sensations such as pain, sweating, nausea or trembling. Alertness or feeling on edge This… Continue reading PTSD

Emotionally Unavailable Parent

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Emotionally Unavailable Parent “I think I literally craved love and attention as a child. The more my mother withdrew, the more frantic I became. I became a troublemaker because I knew she would pay attention to me, even if it meant punishment. It sounds weird, but that’s what I did. Since I couldn’t get her love, I settled… Continue reading Emotionally Unavailable Parent

I feel different from other kids

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Heres an anonymous submission from an Indian girl: I am a 16-year-old British-Indian girl. Like most people of colour all across the world, I have experienced micro-aggressions and subtle racism throughout my life. “Growing up in a small town in England, I didn’t see colour. I didn’t understand racism could come in less explicit forms.… Continue reading I feel different from other kids

Growing up Black in a White Community

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

Growing up Black in a White community Here is Safia’s Story “I remember the first time I relaxed my hair I was sat looking at myself in the mirror thinking who am I not knowing any of my history all I knew is that I wanted straight flowy hair . So I’ll take you back… Continue reading Growing up Black in a White Community

My Self Harm Safety Kit

Posted on: 12 Mar 2022

My Self Harm Safety Kit You can either pick up a pen and paper and just say the answers in your head. These 1. How do I get through these next few moments? Count back from 20 Watch my Favourite Youtuber Go to a safe public place (e.g. coffee shop) Focus on physical sensations Say… Continue reading My Self Harm Safety Kit

Eating Disorder Affirmations

Posted on: 11 Mar 2022

Eating Disorder Affirmations You can let go of these rules and bring about new affirmations… Affirmations can be an important tool in overcoming eating disorders and other self-harming behavior patterns. Repeating your chosen affirmations on a regular basis can help put an end to negative thinking and help you develop new strengths and self-awareness. Choose… Continue reading Eating Disorder Affirmations

Ways to Overcome Fear Foods

Posted on: 07 Mar 2022

Ways to Overcome Fear Foods Common fear foods include: cake, cookies, doughnuts, candy, ice cream, pasta, pizza, chips. Fear foods are taken to a whole new level when eating out. People struggling with eating disorders often want a sense of control that food can somehow provide for them. Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) is a newer… Continue reading Ways to Overcome Fear Foods

Body Dysmorphia

Posted on: 07 Mar 2022

Body Dysmorphia Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) Explains what body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) is, the symptoms and possible causes of BDD and how you can access treatment and support. Includes tips for helping yourself, and advice for friends and family. Common compulsive behaviours include: obsessively checking your appearance in mirrors, or avoiding mirrors completely using heavy make-up to try… Continue reading Body Dysmorphia

Bulimia Nervosa

Posted on: 04 Mar 2022

Bulimia Nervosa “I felt like it could well be a part of my life forever. Until something changed inside me…” “Rewind to a few years ago. On the surface, I was a happy 26-year-old who seemed to have her life all worked out. I was a successful secondary school teacher. I had been living in… Continue reading Bulimia Nervosa

Anorexia / Restrictive Eating

Posted on: 04 Mar 2022

Anorexia / Restrictive Eating “You Made Yourself this Way”: An Eating Disorder is Never a Choice! “Developing an eating disorder is never an active choice. No individual would willingly put themselves through the torture of this type of mental illness, knowing beforehand the toll that it takes on your mind, body, relationships and countless other… Continue reading Anorexia / Restrictive Eating

General Anxiety

Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

General Anxiety People with Generalised Anxiety Disorder may: Worry excessively about everyday things Have trouble controlling their worries or feelings of nervousness Know that they worry much more than they should Feel restless and have trouble relaxing Have a hard time concentrating Startle easily Have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep Tire easily or feel… Continue reading General Anxiety

How to be an Active Listener

Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

How to be an Active Listener Here are 10 tips to help you develop effective listening skills. Step 1: Face the speaker and maintain eye contact. Talking to someone while they scan the room, study a computer screen, or gaze out the window is like trying to hit a moving target. How much of the… Continue reading How to be an Active Listener

The Stages of Loss

Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

The Stages of Loss The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance – are often talked about as if they happen in order, moving from one stage to the other. You might hear people say things like ‘Oh I’ve moved on from denial and now I think I’m entering the angry stage’. Denial Feeling numb… Continue reading The Stages of Loss


Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

Divorce (Trauma) Divorce can be overwhelming and traumatic. Here are tips to help you recover. The only trauma worse than divorce, on some life events scales, is the death of a child. And if you talk with anyone who has been divorced, they will tell you that it feels like a death. It is the death… Continue reading Divorce

Fear of Leaving the House

Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

Fear of Leaving the House Also known as Agoraphobia – is a type of anxiety disorder. A person with agoraphobia is afraid to leave environments they know or consider to be safe. What are the signs of Agoraphobia? Fast, pounding heart Sweating, trembling, shaking Breathing problems Feeling hot or cold Nausea or diarrhoea Chest pain Problems swallowing Dizziness or… Continue reading Fear of Leaving the House

Anger Management

Posted on: 04 Feb 2022

Anger Management “We all feel angry sometimes, often when there’s a good reason. Uncontrolled anger can be harmful, but you can learn to manage it.” Know the Warning Signs Managing your anger effectively means recognizing the warning signs. If you’re able to identify when you’re starting to get angry, you’ll be better prepared to stop… Continue reading Anger Management

I Can’t Visit their Grave

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

I can’t visit their Grave If you’re struggling to face visiting a loved ones grave, then you may need to look at all the reasons why visiting their grave may help you in the grieving process… Reasons why visiting your loved one’s grave will help you grieve… …does visiting the grave help us grieve? 1.… Continue reading I Can’t Visit their Grave

How to Be Vulnerable

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

How to Be Vulnerable Whether we struggle to be vulnerable with our partner, friends, family, or anyone, here are some things you can do in order to be closer with your loved ones or friends by opening up and practicing being vulnerable… 1. Ask for what you need. When we’re hurting, it’s easy to dismiss our… Continue reading How to Be Vulnerable

Signs of a Good Counsellor

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

Signs of a Good Counsellor 1. They actually listen to you. Listening has to be the easiest part of a therapist’s job, right? Not quite. Listening is a multifaceted skill that involves much more than merely waiting passively while someone else speaks. A good therapist signals that they’re not only taking in your words, but… Continue reading Signs of a Good Counsellor

Bullying in the Family

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

Bullying in the Family A family member who is bullying you may: Have unrealistic expectations or make unreasonable demands Blame you when things go wrong Invalidate your thoughts and feelings by undermining, minimising, or dismissing you or your thoughts Create chaos in your life by starting arguments, nitpicking, or making contradictory statements Use emotional blackmail… Continue reading Bullying in the Family

Friendship Break up

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

Friendship Break up “Having close friendships is linked to better health, yet one in eight adults have no close friends at all” The loss of a friendship can be just as hard as a relationship break up. Whether it’s the slow drifting apart from a childhood friend, the sudden, sharp distance created by a disagreement,… Continue reading Friendship Break up

How to Make Friends

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

How to Make Friends If you are looking to make new friends, you have to get clear on what kind of friends you want to make. Generally speaking, there are 3 types of friends: “Hi-Bye” friends (or acquaintances). These are the ones you see at school/work because the context calls for it. You say hi when you see each… Continue reading How to Make Friends

Bullying Myself

Posted on: 03 Feb 2022

Bullying Myself Have you ever caught yourself thinking things like this? I’m no good, and I never will be I should be a better spouse/parent/friend I just can’t handle things I’m stupid, worthless, never good enough I should have more energy I shouldn’t be so exhausted all of the time Other people can manage their… Continue reading Bullying Myself

Bullying at School

Posted on: 31 Jan 2022

Bullying at School If you are being bullied at school it is important to get as much support and help as you can. Please don’t try and deal with this on your own – tell your parents, teachers, friends and keep telling until something is done to stop the bullying happening. You have the right to… Continue reading Bullying at School

How to use Social Media with Anxiety

Posted on: 31 Jan 2022

How to use Social Media with Anxiety ‘why am I so scared to post on social media?’ Some aspects of communication are distinctive online, and this might increase social anxiety. One such aspect is the culture of shares and ‘Likes‘. When you post something and wait to see how many hearts or thumbs-up it receives, it… Continue reading How to use Social Media with Anxiety

Reconnecting to Myself (you)

Posted on: 31 Jan 2022

Reconnecting to Myself (you) If you are feeling lost, work has taken over your life or the latter, you are not alone and there are many ways you can find your way back to you! One method is to journal, here are some journalling prompts to get you started… •    What am I most happy… Continue reading Reconnecting to Myself (you)

Am I Gay? (LGBTQ+)

Posted on: 31 Jan 2022

Am I Gay? (LGBT+) Questioning your sexuality? You are not alone… Although there is no pressure to have a label for your sexuality, it can sometimes be a comfort to be sure of what your prefer when you are feeling confused, unsure or ashamed of your feelings… sexuality is something personal but also is celebrated… Continue reading Am I Gay? (LGBTQ+)

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